Wednesday, September 12, 2007

Follow Up: Friends Who Will Remain Friends

Almost two years ago I wrote an entry in my blog that talked about friends who you made in college, that would remain your friend after you graduate. Now that I have graduated and it has been about four months since graduation, I thought I would follow up on that post I made somewhere in the middle of my college life.

In case you do not remember what the entry was, or you did not know about my blog at that point, the link below leads to the previous entry...

Friends Who Will Remain Friends

The part that I am referring to, is the tangent portion, and the part I would like to take a closer look at was somewhere in the middle where I stated:

"When you are in college or highschool, you meet a lot of people, and you get to know their names and maybe even learn a little about them as you progress through classes with them. But there are some people who you won't remain in contact with after you leave the institution you are at, whether high-school or college. Yes, you may have worked together, and laughed about the same jokes, and hung out, while at school, but beyond that, nothing. Then there are those friends who will still remain your friends after you leave. You may not see them all the time, but you'll stay in contact via phone, email, or what-have-you. Those are your friends, the difference between calling someone your classmate and your friend."

And then:

"... of the 30-40 odd acquaintances I had at high-school, my classmates, there are less then five I probably stay in regular contact with and call my friend. The same will happen in college ... "

About four months later, my prediction that I made two years ago, is more or less true. At the moment, there are less than a handful of classmates who I stay in regular contact with, and even some of those are a singular effort on my part. It is kind of scary, do you not think? I spent five years in college and only came away with a handful of real friends?

Now I would like to extend that to you. Can you name more than a handful of college classmates who you can call a friend; with whom you stay in regular contact with, whether it is real life, internet, or phone? Just out of indignation, you might say 'yes', but take a step back, I am not trying to be flip. How many classmates are your friends?

I found it was an interesting observation to make.

Ciao,
-K