As we go through this complicated dance, this dance of Life, we are bombarded with changes, continuous stream of different emotions, happiness, sadness; the ups and downs of our existence are forever in flux. But in this chaos we are enveloped in from birth to death there are a few things that we can count on the solidarity of. One of these things is friendship. Friendship is the pillar of strength that we all need, no matter how strong you are.
Friendship is talking about a good book or enjoying a sports game together. It's about being a good listener or blazing the trails on a bike. We need friendship as much as we need air to breathe. People may say they are strong, they do not need friendship or companionship, but they are wrong. Everyone needs a friend. Everyone.
Friendship is a broad term. Friendship is the base of the bond you have with your lover, your amour. Friendship is also what you have with your pets. Friendship is the connection you make with your... for lack of better terms... friends. You know you can rely on them, you know you can trust them, and you know they are there to set you right when you have gone astray. They are the lodestone to you finding yourself again when you have gotten turned around in this complicated world we live in. They are the proverbial lighthouse when you are lost in the stormy seas of life. It keeps us sane when everything else is driving us to insanity.
Having a friend or friends truly makes a positive difference in your life.
Thursday, June 05, 2008
Friday, April 18, 2008
Revisit of Some Favorite Picture of the Day Submissions
Our diligent forum host is busy putting Fantasy Essentials onto a new server so that we may have speedy access to our favorite threads once again. This also means that people cannot submit any new pictures in the Picture of the Day thread. We must wait until the server goes live and our forums are returned to us again. While we wait, I have decided to go back and post a few pictures that I have enjoyed posting more than others.
I hope you enjoy seeing these favorites again as much as I do as I go back to my folder, from time to time, where I keep all my pictures that I have posted over the years and those that I have not posted yet.
Chances are most of you will not see this blog entry until the forums do go live again and I direct here, but a few of you may wander by here, perhaps while you wait for FE to come back to us. Click the pictures for the larger version. Enjoy!
MoonKey
Artist - Olivier Ponsonnet
The Seven Deadly Sins: Wrath
Artist - Marta Dahlig
Hajieelkhe
Artist - Linda Bergkvist
Naga Dance
Artist - Camille Kuo
Peacock Woman
Artist - Jiri Adamec
Luna
Artist - Jang Seong-hwan
I hope you enjoy seeing these favorites again as much as I do as I go back to my folder, from time to time, where I keep all my pictures that I have posted over the years and those that I have not posted yet.
Chances are most of you will not see this blog entry until the forums do go live again and I direct here, but a few of you may wander by here, perhaps while you wait for FE to come back to us. Click the pictures for the larger version. Enjoy!
Artist - Olivier Ponsonnet
Artist - Marta Dahlig
Artist - Linda Bergkvist
Artist - Camille Kuo
Artist - Jiri Adamec
Artist - Jang Seong-hwan
Thursday, April 10, 2008
Food is Trendy?
Today I ate out with some friends at Buffalo Wild Wings, BW3's. After ordering our meals, the server came back with our drinks. I had ordered a water. I took a sip of water from the straw only to discover that the water tasted brackish and hard, not sweet and refreshing like water should be. I stated this discovery to those around me and one tells me I should get a soda or iced tea. Water is what I drink mostly and I avoid soda / pop because it tends to makes you thirstier and it is not good for you. And the last time I had iced tea, I added more than five packs of sugar to it, before it was sweet enough to my liking and then it did not taste all that great after all.
This a paraphrased version of the conversation that went on after telling him my preferences:
Friend, "So you only drink water, and nothing else?"
Me, "I drink mostly water, but I also like - "
Friend, "Don't tell me it's Crystal Light... " (pause for response)
I opened my mouth to give a positive indication, and did not even get a word out before...
Friend,"... it is, isn't?! You are like my grandma, drinking crystal light."
And with sarcasm, "It only has 5 Calories per serving."
He proceeded to tease me of drinking it for a minute or two longer.
All this while, I am sitting there thinking "What's wrong with drinking Crystal Light???" I tried asking that question, but either I was not heard over the loud atmosphere or my friend chose not to answer. I did not need his answer though, because I knew that there is nothing wrong with drinking it, even if his grandma drank it.
Has food become trendy? Are certain foods limited to a specific generation, like Crystal Light? I did not think so until today. But it seems from my friend's comment, certain foods and drinks may have association with a certain age group and it is a social faux pas to consume it if not in that age group. Frankly, I think that is ridiculous. If a grocery store sells it, any age group should be able to consume it, whether prune juice or baby food. You may get odd looks if you crack open a jar of mashed pears, but you should not with something like Crystal Light.
My friend needs to get beyond such silly notions of avoiding food stuffs based on age groups.
Note: I'll probably avoid Crystal Light now, because it contains aspartame which is a somewhat controversial sweetener.
This a paraphrased version of the conversation that went on after telling him my preferences:
Friend, "So you only drink water, and nothing else?"
Me, "I drink mostly water, but I also like - "
Friend, "Don't tell me it's Crystal Light... " (pause for response)
I opened my mouth to give a positive indication, and did not even get a word out before...
Friend,"... it is, isn't?! You are like my grandma, drinking crystal light."
And with sarcasm, "It only has 5 Calories per serving."
He proceeded to tease me of drinking it for a minute or two longer.
All this while, I am sitting there thinking "What's wrong with drinking Crystal Light???" I tried asking that question, but either I was not heard over the loud atmosphere or my friend chose not to answer. I did not need his answer though, because I knew that there is nothing wrong with drinking it, even if his grandma drank it.
Has food become trendy? Are certain foods limited to a specific generation, like Crystal Light? I did not think so until today. But it seems from my friend's comment, certain foods and drinks may have association with a certain age group and it is a social faux pas to consume it if not in that age group. Frankly, I think that is ridiculous. If a grocery store sells it, any age group should be able to consume it, whether prune juice or baby food. You may get odd looks if you crack open a jar of mashed pears, but you should not with something like Crystal Light.
My friend needs to get beyond such silly notions of avoiding food stuffs based on age groups.
Note: I'll probably avoid Crystal Light now, because it contains aspartame which is a somewhat controversial sweetener.
Sunday, January 20, 2008
No Lights, Camera, Action! Round 2!
Digital cameras are great things. There are so many creative ways to use them. One of these ways is using them for long exposures. Long exposure means the shutter is kept open longer than what it would normally stay open as compared to taking a regular picture (e.g. of your pet). This weekend a friend and I did our second photo shoot utilizing long exposures. We went to my parent's house, where there is little to no ambient light at night and took long exposure pictures using various light-props.
I will let the pictures do the talking. Below are some pictures, with captions explaining how they were taken. I recommend clicking the pictures for the larger version, as these small thumbnails do not do the pictures justice.
My friend stood in place as I used a blue LED light to draw wings and horns around him. Ideally it would have been red, but blue was easier.
This picture came from the idea of 'holding' a ball of light or energy, the way sorcerers or other magical beings do. I 'created' the ball of energy with a few of the light props and then exposed him with a spot light, otherwise you would only see the ball of light.
We set a time delay and ran into the woods to run around with lights. My friend drew the word 'HELP' with a red LED light. Without any other ambient light it is difficult to see the trees.
The blue LED spells the word 'HAUNT' and the white is supposed to be a ghost. It is not an easy task to 'draw' words in the air. You have to have good spacial awareness of where you have 'written'.
After a few successes with 'writing' in the air, I could not pass the chance to 'write' 'REDRUM' in the air, from the Stephen King novel The Shining. It spells 'murder' backwards, in case you did not get it.
A smiley face, well, because I wanted to draw a smiley face.
I brought some LED Christmas lights with me and after hooking up a few extension cords we were able to use the string of lights in the view of the camera. The word is 'rainbow', because there are many different colored lights.
I like skittles, so I tried to write a little more. The 'writing' took a little longer, that is why the image looks a little different, the exposure time was about 45 - 50 seconds.
Spinning the LED Christmas lights and running around the field of view, crazy.
The string of lights were wrapped around my hand, so that they were in a kind of ball, and I was able to spin my arm around to get this effect.
This time the lights were spun in a couple different directions; lasso around my head, spinning around in a circle facing the camera, and then a kind of figure-eight type spin.
As I was preparing the props for the next round of pictures, my friend let the creativity cut loose and did a series of exposures of his face. He would turn a flashlight on, exposing his face, then turn it off again, moving to the next spot to repeat the process.
This is another one of the face-light pictures, I particularly enjoyed the expressions on his face.
The next set of pictures introduced our most favorite prop yet of these type of pictures; fire. Inspired by a picture from a slow-synchronized flash image of a guy spinning a torch, my friend and I decided that we needed to try a torch too. A stick was wrapped with strips of old cloth, tied down with wire, and doused with lamp oil. The torches stayed lit for five to seven minutes. A bucket of water was prepared in case something caught fire. As you scroll through the pictures I would urge you click the images for the larger version, the beauty of the flame trails can not be appreciated at such a small resolution.
This as the first picture of the lit torch, I did not know what to do, so I just waved it around.
The torch was saved around in pattern of circles, if you look close you can see faint shadows of my arm waving the torch.
Again, the torch was spun in circles, you can see how the fire light me up and I was expose to the camera in a series of blurred poses.
This picture is neat because of the way the fire paths go behind my friend and he appears to be in the middle of the flame path. He moved his arm around so that the torch reached behind him.
The torch was spun in wide circles before being brought back down to the ground. The patterns the fire makes is very neat.
In the spur of the moment, I drew a pentagram, which some people believe is a symbol of evil. The effect is even better by the partial exposure of my face. I have to admit, the picture is a bit sinister looking. I apologize to those who may take offense to such a picture, it was done for artistic purposes only.
This picture is reminiscent of the LED angel wings I drew on my friend earlier.
My friend and I were so enthralled by the first set of fire pictures, with one torch, that we needed more pictures, and this time we made two torches. Here I am holding both torches lit, which gives the appearance of my caught on fire.
Again, not knowing what to do with myself and two torches, I made some circles which made some neat flame trails.
Two torches, spinning circles across the field of view.
My friend had me stand in this pose while he used the torches. We were both impressed on how amazing the picture turned out, giving the appearance of me being on fire. My friend started on the right side of the picture, drawing the flame trails around me and then exiting on the left side of the picture.
I took the torches and spun around in a circle to make it look like I was in the middle of spinning flames. I got dizzy and stumbled off the field of view.
No! The torches are dying! Quick, wave them around frantically for one final shot!
After the last set of torch pictures were taken, it was getting too late to do any more shots and after experiencing the euphoria of the fire pictures and not wanting to go back to LED pictures, we called it a night, already planning the next photo shoot using long exposures, with even grander ideas. Of course there is fire involved.
I hope you enjoyed viewing the pictures. What you saw was not all the pictures that were taken. What you saw were some of the pictures that turned out better than others. With every one good shot, there were two or three not so good shots, but that is simply the nature of photography. Each picture had an average of 20 seconds of exposure, ranging from five seconds to 30 seconds, except the 45 - 50 second exposure picture.
Feel free to comment, either on the blog or by email, I would like to hear what you thought about the pictures.
-K
I will let the pictures do the talking. Below are some pictures, with captions explaining how they were taken. I recommend clicking the pictures for the larger version, as these small thumbnails do not do the pictures justice.
My friend stood in place as I used a blue LED light to draw wings and horns around him. Ideally it would have been red, but blue was easier.
This picture came from the idea of 'holding' a ball of light or energy, the way sorcerers or other magical beings do. I 'created' the ball of energy with a few of the light props and then exposed him with a spot light, otherwise you would only see the ball of light.
We set a time delay and ran into the woods to run around with lights. My friend drew the word 'HELP' with a red LED light. Without any other ambient light it is difficult to see the trees.
The blue LED spells the word 'HAUNT' and the white is supposed to be a ghost. It is not an easy task to 'draw' words in the air. You have to have good spacial awareness of where you have 'written'.
After a few successes with 'writing' in the air, I could not pass the chance to 'write' 'REDRUM' in the air, from the Stephen King novel The Shining. It spells 'murder' backwards, in case you did not get it.
A smiley face, well, because I wanted to draw a smiley face.
I brought some LED Christmas lights with me and after hooking up a few extension cords we were able to use the string of lights in the view of the camera. The word is 'rainbow', because there are many different colored lights.
I like skittles, so I tried to write a little more. The 'writing' took a little longer, that is why the image looks a little different, the exposure time was about 45 - 50 seconds.
Spinning the LED Christmas lights and running around the field of view, crazy.
The string of lights were wrapped around my hand, so that they were in a kind of ball, and I was able to spin my arm around to get this effect.
This time the lights were spun in a couple different directions; lasso around my head, spinning around in a circle facing the camera, and then a kind of figure-eight type spin.
As I was preparing the props for the next round of pictures, my friend let the creativity cut loose and did a series of exposures of his face. He would turn a flashlight on, exposing his face, then turn it off again, moving to the next spot to repeat the process.
This is another one of the face-light pictures, I particularly enjoyed the expressions on his face.
The next set of pictures introduced our most favorite prop yet of these type of pictures; fire. Inspired by a picture from a slow-synchronized flash image of a guy spinning a torch, my friend and I decided that we needed to try a torch too. A stick was wrapped with strips of old cloth, tied down with wire, and doused with lamp oil. The torches stayed lit for five to seven minutes. A bucket of water was prepared in case something caught fire. As you scroll through the pictures I would urge you click the images for the larger version, the beauty of the flame trails can not be appreciated at such a small resolution.
This as the first picture of the lit torch, I did not know what to do, so I just waved it around.
The torch was saved around in pattern of circles, if you look close you can see faint shadows of my arm waving the torch.
Again, the torch was spun in circles, you can see how the fire light me up and I was expose to the camera in a series of blurred poses.
This picture is neat because of the way the fire paths go behind my friend and he appears to be in the middle of the flame path. He moved his arm around so that the torch reached behind him.
The torch was spun in wide circles before being brought back down to the ground. The patterns the fire makes is very neat.
In the spur of the moment, I drew a pentagram, which some people believe is a symbol of evil. The effect is even better by the partial exposure of my face. I have to admit, the picture is a bit sinister looking. I apologize to those who may take offense to such a picture, it was done for artistic purposes only.
This picture is reminiscent of the LED angel wings I drew on my friend earlier.
My friend and I were so enthralled by the first set of fire pictures, with one torch, that we needed more pictures, and this time we made two torches. Here I am holding both torches lit, which gives the appearance of my caught on fire.
Again, not knowing what to do with myself and two torches, I made some circles which made some neat flame trails.
Two torches, spinning circles across the field of view.
My friend had me stand in this pose while he used the torches. We were both impressed on how amazing the picture turned out, giving the appearance of me being on fire. My friend started on the right side of the picture, drawing the flame trails around me and then exiting on the left side of the picture.
I took the torches and spun around in a circle to make it look like I was in the middle of spinning flames. I got dizzy and stumbled off the field of view.
No! The torches are dying! Quick, wave them around frantically for one final shot!
After the last set of torch pictures were taken, it was getting too late to do any more shots and after experiencing the euphoria of the fire pictures and not wanting to go back to LED pictures, we called it a night, already planning the next photo shoot using long exposures, with even grander ideas. Of course there is fire involved.
I hope you enjoyed viewing the pictures. What you saw was not all the pictures that were taken. What you saw were some of the pictures that turned out better than others. With every one good shot, there were two or three not so good shots, but that is simply the nature of photography. Each picture had an average of 20 seconds of exposure, ranging from five seconds to 30 seconds, except the 45 - 50 second exposure picture.
Feel free to comment, either on the blog or by email, I would like to hear what you thought about the pictures.
-K
Friday, January 11, 2008
Rumors, Gossip, Hearsay, and You
We all grew up with it, rumors, gossip, and hearsay; people talking to people about other people. I can remember it back in elementary school, but I was not nearly as attuned to it as I am now, and by no means do I consider myself well versed in such methods, but I have certainly been exposed to a lot more of it through my high school and college years and even now. Let me start out with a few definitions:
Rumor (ru·mor) n. - 1. a story or statement in general circulation without confirmation or certainty as to facts 2. gossip; hearsay
Rumormonger (ru·mor·mon·ger) n. - One who spreads rumors
Gossip (gos·sip) n. - idle talk or rumor, especially about the personal or private affairs of others
Hearsay (hear·say) n. - 1. unverified, unofficial information gained or acquired from another and not part of one's direct knowledge 2. an item of idle or unverified information or gossip; rumor
The definitions pretty much go full circle, with 'rumor' covering 'gossip' and 'hearsay' and then 'hearsay' leading back to 'rumor'. Combine the definitions, and gossip, hearsay, and rumors are defined as a story or statement in general circulation, about the personal or private affairs of others, often without confirmation of certainty of facts. That statement sounds pretty awful. People talk about other people's private lives, not concerned with the real facts, and the more 'juicy' the facts, the less people care if it is the truth or not.
Rumormongering, spreading rumors, is rude and bad mannered, and can cause rifts in friendships and relationships. But friends still gossip and listen to hearsay without considering the feelings of the person or group they are talking about. Rumors often come from one person who hears small detail about someone, thinks it is worth telling to friends and embellishes it, usually adding their own prejudice or feelings into this small detail. The most common rumors and gossip is about other people's relationships; who they are dating, relationship status, relationship problems, etc... The type of details that are none of their concern. Knowing the details about your friends' relationships is a privilege, not a right, and that privilege should be exercised accordingly (meaning, not telling everyone who have no need to know).
People who gossip and rumormonger about other peoples' relationships and lives have no business doing what they are doing. If a couple decides to discuss their private life with friends, they will tell them about it personally, you should not be discussing the private affairs of your friends behind their backs. I am not saying it is savvy to talk about their affairs when they are present, but at least they can stop conversation or verify details about their personal lives if they are present.
I will concede that gossip can be good, but more times than not, gossip and hearsay is hurtful to someones' feelings. I have read books where peoples' lives are destroyed by an errant rumor, I have witnessed, in real life, the havoc rumors and gossip can have on groups of friends. I admit, listening to gossip is thrilling, and certain gossip can be harmless; telling others about someone receiving an award or talking about someone's acceptance in a prestigious academy. Those examples are harmless gossip and are fine to talk about. The type of gossip and rumormongering that is not savvy, is talking about an argument you overheard between friends, who are dating, and then making gut judgments on their relationship, with no facts to back up the judgment. The next thing you know, that gossip you talked about has turned into a malicious rumor and people start getting hurt. In the first place, you had no business overhearing the conversation, and you have even less right to discuss it with friends and make conclusions.
In the intelligence community hearsay has little to no credibility, when it comes to intelligence gathering. And in personal lives; even if it is given little credence, it does not make it any less hurtful.
So, next time you overhear a choice tidbit of information about your friends, pause and think if it you have a right to tell others and if it can hurt the person whom you are talking about.
Ciao,
-K
Rumor (ru·mor) n. - 1. a story or statement in general circulation without confirmation or certainty as to facts 2. gossip; hearsay
Rumormonger (ru·mor·mon·ger) n. - One who spreads rumors
Gossip (gos·sip) n. - idle talk or rumor, especially about the personal or private affairs of others
Hearsay (hear·say) n. - 1. unverified, unofficial information gained or acquired from another and not part of one's direct knowledge 2. an item of idle or unverified information or gossip; rumor
The definitions pretty much go full circle, with 'rumor' covering 'gossip' and 'hearsay' and then 'hearsay' leading back to 'rumor'. Combine the definitions, and gossip, hearsay, and rumors are defined as a story or statement in general circulation, about the personal or private affairs of others, often without confirmation of certainty of facts. That statement sounds pretty awful. People talk about other people's private lives, not concerned with the real facts, and the more 'juicy' the facts, the less people care if it is the truth or not.
Rumormongering, spreading rumors, is rude and bad mannered, and can cause rifts in friendships and relationships. But friends still gossip and listen to hearsay without considering the feelings of the person or group they are talking about. Rumors often come from one person who hears small detail about someone, thinks it is worth telling to friends and embellishes it, usually adding their own prejudice or feelings into this small detail. The most common rumors and gossip is about other people's relationships; who they are dating, relationship status, relationship problems, etc... The type of details that are none of their concern. Knowing the details about your friends' relationships is a privilege, not a right, and that privilege should be exercised accordingly (meaning, not telling everyone who have no need to know).
People who gossip and rumormonger about other peoples' relationships and lives have no business doing what they are doing. If a couple decides to discuss their private life with friends, they will tell them about it personally, you should not be discussing the private affairs of your friends behind their backs. I am not saying it is savvy to talk about their affairs when they are present, but at least they can stop conversation or verify details about their personal lives if they are present.
I will concede that gossip can be good, but more times than not, gossip and hearsay is hurtful to someones' feelings. I have read books where peoples' lives are destroyed by an errant rumor, I have witnessed, in real life, the havoc rumors and gossip can have on groups of friends. I admit, listening to gossip is thrilling, and certain gossip can be harmless; telling others about someone receiving an award or talking about someone's acceptance in a prestigious academy. Those examples are harmless gossip and are fine to talk about. The type of gossip and rumormongering that is not savvy, is talking about an argument you overheard between friends, who are dating, and then making gut judgments on their relationship, with no facts to back up the judgment. The next thing you know, that gossip you talked about has turned into a malicious rumor and people start getting hurt. In the first place, you had no business overhearing the conversation, and you have even less right to discuss it with friends and make conclusions.
In the intelligence community hearsay has little to no credibility, when it comes to intelligence gathering. And in personal lives; even if it is given little credence, it does not make it any less hurtful.
So, next time you overhear a choice tidbit of information about your friends, pause and think if it you have a right to tell others and if it can hurt the person whom you are talking about.
Ciao,
-K
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